Pour Your Heart Out

Thanks. You're literally such a good friend to me

 

Aww thanks, you're my second bestie on here lol, and i'm always glad you're around
edit: Forgot some things to add.
1. You're so nice to people on here and when they give you crap you don't go cry about it, you stand up for yourself.
2. If your mom can't see how you're trying really hard to be up to her expectations then she's just crazy.

 

I'm glad you're around too

 

=D

 

DiamondMaster2.0
its okay bro, dont be sad. some parents are just like that. very hard to please and you just cant live up to their expectations. there really isnt much for me to tell you, you just need to hang in there. just say ok to whatever she says. do what she wants and try your best.. she will understand sooner or later. it wont last forever. but dont let this bring you down, life is too short to be mad at it. its ok if you were sad for a little while because of it but life goes on, stand on your feet and keep going with life. just know that if you're trying your best then its good enough even of your mom says otherwise. inner peace is the most important factor here. be satisfied with yourself while staying hungry to achieve great things. we're always here for you

 

EXERCISE HYPE!!!

 

Thank you

 

Madara are you sure that you are only 18 years old?

 

Glad that your parents were accepting man. If I came out as gay or anything LGBTQ+ to my family (except for my mom and dad) I would be berated with insults and shamed in so many ways

 

Thank you man that means so much!

 

Np. It takes courage to come out

 

Yeah it was really hard to tell my parents that.
I was getting ready to pack my bags after I told them because I thought didn't love me anymore.
But they still loved me. That felt so good to hear that from them.
They are really supportive of it.
They are my adopted parents and I been with them since 2009.
I still haven't told my whole family
I nervous of what they would think of me after I tell them.
I might tell them soon but not now.
I am not ready for that yet.
But someday I will be.
Again thank you for the support.
I thank everyone for supporting me.

 

Madara, you've dropped some great advice on this thread and have helped a lot of people, but I'm really gonna have to disagree with you on this one.
DiamondMaster2.0 in a household where you're being physically abused by a parent or guardian, you absolutely need to seek external help. Do not try to stick it out. Of course in a situation where you're forced to stick it out, going along with everything the abuser tells you to do is a good idea. In this case where your parent is willing to hit you for getting grades they're not happy with and are unwilling to understand basics of the grading process, they are most likely not going to understand how their actions are making you feel the way you expressed in this thread.
What Madara said about being satisfied with your own effort and having inner peace is good, but being abused is serious and what you consider to be a good standard is obviously not enough to her and as you said this causes her to lash out with violence. You said you know a form of self defense so it may not seem serious to you but violent tendencies can grow rapidly and in an extreme situation it's best to leave asap. idk where you live so I can't direct you to any child help services that can help you so I highly recommend asking an adult or at least a teacher that you trust or you know would be willing to help. This can be hard because of covid so you may not be able to do anything for awhile, so in that case you do need to stick with it and hang in there. If she doesn't understand now, the chances of her eventually understanding you while you live with her are really low.
You need to be prepared for extreme cases of abuse, especially sexual abuse, to defend yourself with force if it comes to it. If she tries to defend herself by saying she loves you, that's a huge red flag because it shows that the way she shows love puts your emotional and physical health in danger.
Keep trying to meet her standards if that's what you want to do, so keep strong and don't feel scared or intimidated to call out for help in places beside a children's bike game.

 

Coated_Badger
thats a great post man. i do agree with you. but since he is taller than his mom and knows karate a little i wasn't really worried about abuse. but it definitely could happen which i kinda overlooked. DiamondMaster2.0 coager made excellent points. so give them a hard thought and be careful with your decisions.

 

same I have told my adopted parents that I was omni-sexual and I was not sure how they would feel/react when I came out to them but they still loved me and I haven't told my bio family yet and I am not sure when I will tell them

 

Kinda afraid to come out to my parents about being Bisexual, I'm not too sure what will happen.
My parents are good people though! It's just that I'm worrying about the worst happening, and them disowning me, or hurting me..
And I really don't want that to happen.
I love them, and I want then to love me as well.
I learned about this when I was in 9th grade. I used to sit with 2 people on a couch in my physics classroom, and they were the same gender as me. I didn't want to think that I was Bi, since I thought that it would be "wrong" to think that (I was severely clouded in my judgement back then.) I started noticing that I had an attraction to males and females from then onward.
I've tried to keep it under wraps from my brother, from my mom and dad. They don't suspect a single thing, but I'll have to tell them soon. It all really started from physical contact on the couch (the couch was pretty small ) but my leg was touching theirs, and I was thinking "If I'm not supposed to like this, why am I not trying to stop it?"
I've thought about it over and over again, and realized that I was Bi. I realized this when I was in 11th grade, around February (so Feb 2020)
And with the Coolgamer3108 and Ninjasparkour drama, I was scared to even say a word. I wanted to help Cg out with that, but I felt that Ninja might have won, since he had more popularity. Thankfully, to my knowledge, he didn't win.
But I digress, I felt scared to know that someone I looked up to ended up despising the community I was a part of (the LGBTQ community). I really thought that anyone of higher status didn't want to be around anyone of that nature, or to even be associated with them. And I know it might be jokes, but I have see comments in multiple discord servers, with higher members joking about the community, such as gay comments, and using it as an insult (not limited to the frhd discord server, of course). I've been misguided by that, which is something that I know very well, but I still am worried that not taking that factor in mind could result in something bad..
I keep thinking that, if I don't prepare for the worst (even if it might now happen), I'm gonna end up paying for it later on..
I'm just so worried that my parents will hate me and I know this can be confusing. My parents are wonderful, loving people. They aren't Christian, and they don't hate anyone for any reason. (Thought I might include those, just to try and help the visualization a bit)
I plan to come out to my mom first, as a safety net, at the end of this month, and I'm scared as hell.
I don't know how I should do it, I want to tell them how I discovered that I was bi, since I don't want them to think I'm "confused" about what I want. I also plan to text my mom about it, and if possible, to talk with her alone. Talking with both of them freaks me out so much, I get so damn nervous, and start choking up my own words, and I wouldn't be able to accurately explain it to full detail.
I would much rather send a message to my mom, and talk to her in private, then maybe she can talk to my dad about it.
I just get so nervous thinking about how this will go.
And I can't wait anymore, I have to come out at the end of this month, because I have plans that hinge on this going right in the summer...
I really hope it will go well.
I'm terrified of the worst

 

ik how u feel but even if your parents don't love u/love u as much after but there will always be someone in the world that will love you and I only came out to my adopted dad's and not my bio family because I do not know how they will react to it and I only have everyone but my mom to tell because she died in 2020 from a drug overdose so I only have everyone else in my family to tell and I don't want to because I don't know how they will react (especially my dad because he has gone to jail many times and he has sexually abused a sixteen year old girl and has beat up my mother so yeah I don't want to tell him but I'm gonna have to at some point) so yeah even if your parents don't love you/love u as much just remember that there will always be someone in the world that will love you.

 

I know how you feel it's hard.
What I did is just told my parents in a calm way.
I wish you best of luck!!!

 

that is good

 

Thanks man. Can't wait for coager Chronicles 11