DiamondMaster2.0
you have a very common issue which is sad because parents aren't supposed to pick a favourite child. even though i feel your frustration because my moms favourite is my little sister lol\ so i know where you're talking from.
a_drain explained alot of important things very well and it summed up most of what i wanted to say so big thanks to him but i wanted to add some more things from personal experiences as well. now its important to always remember that your mom loves you as much as she loves your sister, this is basic mother instincts but she is just giving more attention to your sister for a reason and i unfortunately dont know it. there is always a certain reason for her extra attention to one of the kids. now the first step to trying to figure out any issue is analyzing and asking questions from all the perspectives. these are questions that are important, why does she give my sister more attention? why is she more strict with me? should i be sad because of this? should i think about it this much? should i talk to my family about this? whats the best solution here?
now i'll try to give you some answers but remember that every situation is different from the other so the answers may be a little different for you, this is why its important to think carefully about the best thing to do.
idk why your mom gives your sister more attention but the answer could vary from a very wide amount of answers possible. maybe your mom is more strict with you because of the reasons
a_drain mentioned. which is pretty good. she's training you for a good reason. or maybe she knows that boys are normally the ones who are easily affected by people and tries to teach you discipline and this is also close to the reasons mentioned before.
now should you be sad? no. being sad is the last thing you should do here. right now its important to do as your mom says because in the end, she still your mom and the person who carried you in her and the person that raised you.
should you talk to your family about this? probably yes. i'd suggest approaching the most approachable family member you have, whether its your dad or even your sister. explain the situation and ask them for advice and what you should do because this isn't fair if she is just obviously preferring your sister.
as long as your goal is honest and harmless (which it totally is in this situation) you should have the freedom of choice in which lane of career you want to go down in. or in which profession you want to be a part of. this is why i think you should talk to your family because adults arent stupid, maybe your mom has a very good reason. maybe she doesnt. in both cases, you should have a friendly chat with your family.
i personally to this day have a mother who prefers my little sister over me and my other sister. and thats okay, my mom still loves me and thats all i want. and i know that i should be more careful with my kids in the future to prevent them from feeling down or sad. these are just opportunities to learn.
even if your mom doesnt give you the praise you want and deserve, dont let it unmotivate you. life is very hard, you need to get stronger from every little detail in your day. your mom isnt treating you the way you want? its ok, do your homework and everything else the way you want and just wait for time and effort to fix the issue. dont let it tackle your daily life. somethings just take alot of time to fix.
i'll give you a side note that is kinda connected to the subject and i want you to know them, the thing i am most grateful in life is that my parents made a lot of mistakes while raising me and my sisters. now there are a ton of things that i know how to do correctly to my own kids. and how to be a better parent to them. mistakes are okay but its important to learn from them. in your situation, i'd say to learn from all the things that you wished were different about your parents. know how to do them correctly because being a parent easy. im just asking you to pay attention here. with time you grow up and learn how to use them. also these are your family so always cherish every moment with them because we will all day one day. life is short, try to fix everything soon and be happy with your mother. im not trying to scare you or anything lmao. just be grateful for your blessings and always try to improve them for yourself and for people around you.
i hope this helped you a little. if you had any more questions or the situation got better in the future please dont hesitate to share and we'll try to help as much as possible.
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