I honestly haven't talked about much of anything that's been going on in my life for a long time, and I'm not really sure why. The most I've really spoken with anyone was on here, and I have had a couple conversations with my friends recently that weren't big at all but really put things into perspective for me about how much I have been ignoring thoughts and feelings. To some extent I really think I have had a problem with depersonalization of a lot of things, for about a month I completely separated myself from about everything. I don't self diagnose about most of anything, but from my understanding of dissociation that I have heard from friends and done research into I think I have really had a problem with that recently as well. And it has explained some experiences I have had in my past, especially from the time that I moved. I've felt that because I have been ignoring feelings, especially the last year since my grandma died my life has felt a lot different. I think I have not felt like myself for some time now, and I didn't really know how disconnected I felt. I didn't talk with anyone when I have had friends leave me, my grandpa dying, recent friends leaving to college and on missions and just how the last part of my life that I felt I had connection to was leaving me. I have really noticed the last 3 months especially how I have not been able to feel things when I wanted to, I have not been able to think about what bothers me or process it at all when I wanted to, which has become an issue, and with some of my relationships I have not been able to feel that connection either as a consequence. I have some degree of worry at all times, because I have good and healthy stressors from work I know I need to get done, and some other things that are causing anxiety, but because of those problems I talked about before I haven't been able to process what was bothering me or how to fix it, it was almost like a background noise I just had at all times that I had to work around. My life hasn't really felt real. I haven't been dreaming much at all which I think is good. The last time I had similar experiences to these I did not know it but I had a really hard time distinguishing between my dreams and my reality. I think I haven't been remembering dreams because I have been sleeping extremely deeply. My sleep is pretty impacted by my mood, especially the last 3 years. I tend to not sleep at all when things get bad, which is not healthy. I have a hard time eating too. It's not because of an overwhelming depression, it's almost like it is easy for me to feel bad physically. I want to, to some extent, it explains to me WHY I feel bad. I don't know why I'm that way. Things are starting to get better, though. I have had friends that are leaving recently, some of which cut contact almost entirely, which bothered me but I am getting over it. I have a fair amount of stress about school but I feel like I can manage it. I am reading more, I am playing the piano and in my free time I've been watching movies and playing Mario bros Wii instead of scrolling social media, which as silly as it sounds has been very grounding for me too. I still feel like with this new perspective I don't really know who I am, or if I like who I am at all. I almost feel like a stranger when I really get a perspective of myself in my head. Im not sure what prompted me to type this all, but actively talking about what I am thinking about and feeling is something I hope grounds me. I still have a lot of anxiety that my entire life or reality is slipping out of my grasp. That's not really the best way for me to explain or put it, but I don't know how else to say it. Life is strange.
I think the only thing that has helped me at all is that I really try my hardest to stay loving. I try to find love for everyone, especially when I am feeling my worst. I acknowledge so much love for my friends, I feel like I have real friends for the first time since I was in elementary school. And even know I know they probably won't be permanent, and I am transitioning into a part of my life where friendships will never look the same, I have appreciation that I could have this, even if it wasn't for long. I have a lot of love for music, and other forms of art. I have a lot of love for storytelling, whether that's in music or movies, or tv shows, or books. That is what bothered me the most. I have been so disconnected for so long I could not feel the same love I could, and that had been helping me from completely losing it. I knew that it was there, or a muted version of it, but I could not feel it. It was like if a feeling was turned into a dull roar. It was like having it behind a glass wall.
Something interesting that has been really helping me recently that I have a lot of love for are quotes. I save them everywhere every time I run into them. There are select quotes from poetry or movies that impact me, but there are mostly some sayings and phrases that I've seen on instagram and Pinterest that I have really connected with. I don't know if everyone has seen the format, but what I've liked most are those images of different things with text overlaying it in white. A simple arial font. That's not the only format of quotes that I like but it is kind of the most recurring thing. Some I really like are: "It's going to be okay, but it's going to be different." Are you gonna cowboy up or are you just going to lay there and bleed" "and so I process grief by running from it- until it finds me in the middle of the street on a beautiful summer's day" "we've come to warn you about the dangers of self-isolation when things get difficult" "The world is cruel, therefore I won't be" and "but we cannot sit and stare at our wounds forever". It might seem silly and it probably is but to be completely honest I do not care. I am not horribly attached to those but I do like them and I am not scared to say that. That also might sound silly, but the same things applies.
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