Pour Your Heart Out

i dont mean to get in but my advice is give her time
i had the same issue and i just kept thinking of my gf and after a while when the time felt right i just asked her and she calmed down and we have been together since 6th grade and this happened when i was in like 9th

 

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i cant say your wrong

 

My sister and father passed away at around 9am yesterday in a freak car accident leaving me by myself as my mum left when I was around 6 yrs old, im not really sure what I am going to do with my life but I want to have something to remember her if I every play this game again. My sister loved this game and I was wondering if one of you guys could talk to a dev and try and get a special hat or something put into the game as she used to love making little tracks and playing the game and it would be great if there was something to remember her on FRHD in some way. -conceptial/r_rc

 

same

 

you should do it in the designated pour your heart out thread

 

Hey everybody
Life update here:
I've actually been doing better! Depression has been more manageable lately, I've spent less time constantly dwelling on elie, and overall things have been looking up.
I've been doing better eating wise, and hopefully will be getting out of treatment and back to school soon. Stress about catching up in school is still pretty bad, but it's better than it was. Also, recently, I started dating someone! It's been about a month, and things are going great. She's definitely supporting a majority of my mental stability lol. But yeah I just thought I'd post a little update here, telling everyone how I'm doing.

sh and suicide topics (open) sh and suicide topics (close)

so just a little extra here. sh has been better, not cutting as much. suicidal thoughts, weirdly enough, are still pretty strong. it kinda seems like just the way i look at life now, as something i don't want to live anymore. but i know there are too many people i would hurt by going through with it, so i'm good in that respect

hope you all are doing well

 

im happy for u bro!

 

im just better like that

 

wsp dude, we don't talk too much ik, so these words might fall short or impact you in a different way than I intend, but I mean the best,

You've been going through some sh like we all do brother, some worse than others. This whole gf sister and best friend thing is stupid, and you might think it was stoppable, which it probably was. But it's in the past, you've done all you can bro, and you've been the better man in the situation by apologizing, and that's what matters man. I think that women are always gonna be tricky, and not knowing how they feel is the most dangerous part of it. But rn all the women in my life are backstabbing me when I haven't done anything wrong apart from being genuine and truthful, and I have to deal with that. Idk but whatever I do seems to piss them off, and maybe it's my problem, who knows, but I feel like you should never be 100% genuine in front of women. Push your boundaries with them only when you're flirting and that's about it. The best thing is to stick close to your friends who are guys and build stronger relationships with them first (for me I just tease the sh out of them and they do the same). Having suicidal thoughts sucks, and sometimes trying to get rid of them makes them worse, I can relate. But, (I mean this to help you out here, genuinely) I feel like the problem with a lot of people with mental health issues is that they think about themselves as a victim too much. Yes, sometimes life sucks and you want it to end, and sometimes you are the victim, but it's unhelpful to think of yourself as the victim in these situations because you are only digging yourself a deeper hole. Another unhelpful factor is dwelling too much on whatever is wrong with you and blaming it on that. Sure, having depression will cause certain things, but you have to not blame everything on depression, otherwise you will think about it too much and you'll live in complacency and underachieving. Don't get me wrong dude, I'm not saying this is you, I'm just warning you because sh can get even more tough real quick, and I don't want that to happen to you.

Now how to slow the downhill down. I know it's typical but for me it was following my passions, finding God, and trying to enjoy fun moments and cherish them. My passions are art and music and thats roughly it rn. But i feel like doing what you're good at or what you enjoy and doing it a lot is very helpful. If you're an introvert like me, spending time by yourself pursuing your passions is helpful. I've been progressing my skills from bad to alright in art, and I listen to tonnes of music and just focusing on setting up yourself for later years. I feel that finding somebody to look up to (in my instance God) is helpful. I'm not trying to make you into a Christian or nothing nor do I want you to believe everything I do, I just want you to think about what I'm saying for a sec. But I don't want my Christianity to put you off, so enough on that. In the end, one of the best things I did for myself was set up routines to stick to. Gymming is good for body image, (but I don't think your image is too important so long as you are presentable, and you know you are one of a kind in your own way), but also simply making your bed in the morning helps. Get a friend to help you out with your routines and be real with them, and keep them accountable for it. Work on areas of your life that you know you are lacking in, and you're only gonna go uphill right?

I don't really know much man, this is mainly based of my personal experiences, so you can do what you want with this advice. But hey, bro, I've got you, no matter what you do or who you are, and I'm doing this to help you out for real man.

 

what is bro yapping about

 

well said.

 

im stressed.

 

oh wait never mind folks, false alarm

 

I guess the closer I get to people the more they hate me. I don’t understand how someone I loved so much can just take it all away at once and act like it was pointless. 2 weeks ago we went on an awesome date and then she went super distant and now it’s over. This the kinda stuff that makes me feel so empty I want to just feel again. Physically.

 

cheer up sport!

 

That sucks, man. Relationships are rough, and people are just plain hard to deal with most of the time. You just gotta pick yourself back up and keep moving forward, even though it hurts. There's always people that you can talk to, whether that be your family or people here on this silly biking game.

 

yeah happens a bunch but best to try and keep your head up as much as you can
know that's pretty difficult to do most of the time when there's not much tangible that you may have at the moment that keeps you from falling into a negative mindset, but I know that from trying even a small bit, every day, to think a bit positively, can help move you a long way from feeling down
I also feel that an important thing to say here is that you're not at fault, which I know from when you shared some stuff with me in the past, I came to that deduction from what you laid out and how you explained how stuff was going down
and from how I was feeling a while ago as well, I was feeling very similar to this and I can tell you that it's alright if you can't move on right away, especially after being so attached
I've had to move away from one sided relationships before and it doesn't feel good, my most recent one was after 3 years, and yeah it did not feel that good to do it, at all
But I can assure you, that once you realize your worth, even if it takes a long time to realize that, it can go a long way to helping your confidence rise once again. Even if it's just knowing that you're a good person at heart, even if you go on your own road for a while without anyone, just going on a road with a positive mindset is certainly a step, no matter how small that step may be
I can certainly say from experience though that you aren't the cause for the issue, though

I do feel that people that move on from relationships that fast, or at least without much word, like in your case (and in mine), those people don't exactly appear to be mindful of what they're doing and I think that when they do that, it just comes off as pretty selfish, to say nothing
Also, I'm not super sure on what a good age to start a relationship is, so I can't really comment on it much because I don't have years of experience. I only really sort of got into trying it a while after I'd graduated high school because I didn't want to get into that. Maybe Elibloodthirst can offer some better and more insightful advice on relationships than I really can, if you want to ask him if he'd be alright talking
Otherwise, if you do want to talk sometime, you can always friend me back on discord, same username as here, if you want to talk anytime. It can be hard to get that motivation to think positively in a situation like this, but I do believe you will be able to move past it, even if it's tough. And I do know that things will get better from here, because you do have worth, and it's really unfortunate that people haven't seen that
I only hope you can see my message and take my words to heart, if you do remember how I was when I was talking to you and letting you know my struggles, I hope that offers a similar point of view to you and gives me some credibility there
I wish you the best for right now and hope you feel better, message me if you want to talk more

 

that sh.t look like the battle pass

 

my bad