Pour Your Heart Out

Opportunity will come. I will get to be in the cab of a locomotive sometime soon

 

Maybe you could get her to realize that she is doing to you is what her parents did to her (that is if she didnt like it)

 

Maybe. But her parents were way worse. Communist Poland wasn't good. Her dad broke her bones, her brothers would bully her. She never received any help from anyone

 

I feel like I'm always stressed in a way, because, and I'll admit it, I procrastinate way too much. I play a game or whatever, and then I'm always pressed to get my work done on time. Usually, I do, because I have straight A's, but I feel like I have no time to do stuff, even though I could do other things instead of playing games. So I guess my question is how do I make myself resist the urge to constantly be entertaining myself with something other than school and games, and actually have some real free time?

 

DiamondMaster2.0
you have a very common issue which is sad because parents aren't supposed to pick a favourite child. even though i feel your frustration because my moms favourite is my little sister lol\ so i know where you're talking from. a_drain explained alot of important things very well and it summed up most of what i wanted to say so big thanks to him but i wanted to add some more things from personal experiences as well. now its important to always remember that your mom loves you as much as she loves your sister, this is basic mother instincts but she is just giving more attention to your sister for a reason and i unfortunately dont know it. there is always a certain reason for her extra attention to one of the kids. now the first step to trying to figure out any issue is analyzing and asking questions from all the perspectives. these are questions that are important, why does she give my sister more attention? why is she more strict with me? should i be sad because of this? should i think about it this much? should i talk to my family about this? whats the best solution here?
now i'll try to give you some answers but remember that every situation is different from the other so the answers may be a little different for you, this is why its important to think carefully about the best thing to do.
idk why your mom gives your sister more attention but the answer could vary from a very wide amount of answers possible. maybe your mom is more strict with you because of the reasons a_drain mentioned. which is pretty good. she's training you for a good reason. or maybe she knows that boys are normally the ones who are easily affected by people and tries to teach you discipline and this is also close to the reasons mentioned before.
now should you be sad? no. being sad is the last thing you should do here. right now its important to do as your mom says because in the end, she still your mom and the person who carried you in her and the person that raised you.
should you talk to your family about this? probably yes. i'd suggest approaching the most approachable family member you have, whether its your dad or even your sister. explain the situation and ask them for advice and what you should do because this isn't fair if she is just obviously preferring your sister.
as long as your goal is honest and harmless (which it totally is in this situation) you should have the freedom of choice in which lane of career you want to go down in. or in which profession you want to be a part of. this is why i think you should talk to your family because adults arent stupid, maybe your mom has a very good reason. maybe she doesnt. in both cases, you should have a friendly chat with your family.
i personally to this day have a mother who prefers my little sister over me and my other sister. and thats okay, my mom still loves me and thats all i want. and i know that i should be more careful with my kids in the future to prevent them from feeling down or sad. these are just opportunities to learn.
even if your mom doesnt give you the praise you want and deserve, dont let it unmotivate you. life is very hard, you need to get stronger from every little detail in your day. your mom isnt treating you the way you want? its ok, do your homework and everything else the way you want and just wait for time and effort to fix the issue. dont let it tackle your daily life. somethings just take alot of time to fix.
i'll give you a side note that is kinda connected to the subject and i want you to know them, the thing i am most grateful in life is that my parents made a lot of mistakes while raising me and my sisters. now there are a ton of things that i know how to do correctly to my own kids. and how to be a better parent to them. mistakes are okay but its important to learn from them. in your situation, i'd say to learn from all the things that you wished were different about your parents. know how to do them correctly because being a parent easy. im just asking you to pay attention here. with time you grow up and learn how to use them. also these are your family so always cherish every moment with them because we will all day one day. life is short, try to fix everything soon and be happy with your mother. im not trying to scare you or anything lmao. just be grateful for your blessings and always try to improve them for yourself and for people around you.
i hope this helped you a little. if you had any more questions or the situation got better in the future please dont hesitate to share and we'll try to help as much as possible.

 

Whoof. That's a lot of typing. Is your keyboard melted yet?
But great advice, even if it isn't for me.

 

steal it with him

 

Hide the Ice cream in a different place? Idk honestly. My siblings never do what I tell them to because they're all older than me. I'm sure it's the same for you

 

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm. Just more incentive to take it out of the freezer

 

BoostButt
https://community.freeriderhd.com/threads/pour-your-heart-out.12431/page-29#post-288646
e; thanks : )

 

Thank you. You are truly an amazing person

 

DISCLAIMER: THIS IS A REPOST​

Madara Ok, so I have recently noticed that I have sociopathic behavior. I have manipulated and blackmailed people. I have a really bad temper and sometimes just feel like I want to hit people. I'm also really pissed at our country's education. Like when do you need some of the stuff like calculus or memorising the periodic table of elements. I also think I have minor ADHD. Like if someone tells me their name, five seconds later I'll forget it for an example. Also, I easily get into bad habits. When I was really little I'd cross my toes and fingers over each other and now my pinky toe is completely sideways. One time when I was around 4 my mom cut my fingernail and it started bleeding so I started biting my fingernails instead. In the second grade I legit started snorting like a pig and making grunting noises and I couldn't stop. I eventually forced myself stopped those because of constant humiliation. At some point I started cracking my neck and back. I also have flat feet and really messed up ankles. Honestly I don't know what I'm gonna have to do in the future. I might not be able to play soccer/football and track anymore. I always feel sad. I get made fun of everywhere I go. I want to go into the military when I get older, but I feel like I will be too weak and will get a dishonorable discharge. People tell me that I am a terrible person. I don't ever see my actual good friends anymore because a lot of them moved away and because of covid. I am trying to change, but it feels so difficult. Please help

 

Manipulated and blackmailed anyone in this community? (if you're comfortable answering that)
General subjects in school are annoying sometimes, but it's just part of life depending where you live. Once you are done with K-12 you will be off to do whatever you want. (Bruh, your taking calculus at 13? lmao you must be pretty smart) I know it sounds like lame advice, but you really are going to have to stick it out until you finish K-12. The good news is if you are taking calculus now (wtf), things will hopefully seem much easier after that. I'm pretty sure you can't take anything higher than that even in high school (there were 3 calculus class for me, so it depends which one you are on).

I was bullied in elementary school and a tiny bit in middle school. I was also a really oblivious kid. Pretty stupid in general too. I literally did not know how to react to the bullying, so I ignored it. Verbal and behavioral bullying are easy to ignore actually. Have they met you? Like, really met you and made an attempt to get to know you? Then the bullying is their problem. What they say to or about you might not feel good at first, but when you think about the fact that they don't know you, it's easy to think... "Why should I care? They don't know me." In other words, they don't have a reason to hate you so it really is their problem, not yours. There is nothing you can do, but I can tell you one thing - a negative reaction only fuels the fire. If you let it get to you, they will notice and just keep doing it. I think this is called removing yourself from the situation. It really works. This is a mindset change though, so you probably won't be able to just repeat it in your mind and it just works right away. Take time to think about it and make sense of it in your head if you want to go this route.

One time, a kid randomly threw me on the ground when the class was walking on the field together. The wind was knocked out of me because I landed on my back, but I just got my breath back, stood up, said "I'm ok" quietly and brushed myself off. I'm not saying that is what you should do if you are being physically bullied, but just an example of how ignorant I was to the situation. I didn't even know what to think or how to react at the time. Verbal stuff was a little different. I laughed with the bullies... which is funny when I think about it. Total opposite reaction of what they were probably expecting, but that was a result of being pathetically oblivious, not removing myself from the situation. I didn't even realize I was being bullied until later lmao.

Honestly I have seen you improve your behavior within this community. Even when you fall back to toxic behavior you correct it very quickly. Your efforts are not in vain. Even if you don't think your improving (I don't know what your thoughts are on your improvement), the community appreciates the effort. It also hasn't been that long has it? It's not easy to change toxic behavior if it comes from more than just wanting to troll people or whatever. If it's deeper than that it will take longer I'm sure, but you are doing fine so far.

Sorry if I didn't cover everything, but hopefully this helps.

 

he turns 13 on may 25th

 

I am taking algebra II, but I know that BoostButt does calculus and he isn't much older

 

Please try to stay more serious and on topic. Thank you!

 

topic?

 

read the first post

 

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