Pour Your Heart Out

as a person matures and grows it becomes obvious that the world is a cruel, mean, sad, and happy place simultaneously. we are all human and we all need someone to listen to our problems. many people including me sometimes didn't have anyone to talk to and that hurts. the world runs on love and people who take life as a joke all have a breaking point where they crave love and human interactions.
depression is very common nowadays and we all need to help in some way to help people with depression. to people who have no one to talk to. to people who just want to be loved in some way.
society is filled with toxic and unhealthy concepts and beliefs. we as humans sometimes apply them to ourselves, which raises sadness and depression.
i made this thread because i once needed it and maybe someone else needs it somewhere. you can pour your heart out here and i and hopefully other fellow good forum members will try to help you in whatever situation you are in.
also if anyone wanted help with something that you didn't feel ok to share here, you can always send me a private message.
https://community.freeriderhd.com/threads/pour-your-heart-out.12431/page-28#post-288646
i would appreciate it if no one spammed and no one puts a joke here. if you will comment, comment something helpful.
thank you : )

 

that wasnt what i was aiming for but ok lol.
i meant that maybe you can share your story or share something you have learned in the past that might help other people.

 

I live in constant fear of being diagnosed with Maine brain. I hang around so many people that have it that I'm scared it might rub off on me. I don't know how much more I can take before I make a long list of spelling errors. auto-correct can only get me so far...

 

Alright, I guess I'll start:
First off, I'd like to say I think this thread has a lot of potential and I'm glad someone finally decided to create something like this. Therefore, props to Madara
I'm having some issues and I kind of need someone to help me out. Here goes: My 10 yo friend says that his Asian parents set unattainable academic standards and frankly, it's driving him crazy. So crazy to the point that he is starting to feel depressed too often and has contemplated suicide several times. According to him, his parents give him so much extra work, his only leisure times are from 7-9 every Fri, Sat, and Sun. The rest of the time he is either doing schoolwork, doing extra work, sleeping, or eating. Because of quarantine, he cannot see his friends and is feeling terribly alone, defeated, and hopeless. He claims he once got a 100% in one of his classes and his parents still didn't think that was enough. I'm very concerned for the mental health of my friend but don't know what to do. What could I recommend that he do to improve his relationship with his parents?

 

MadMaxx21
thats indeed an unfortunate situation especially for a 10-year-old. i highly doubt that anyone under the age of 18 could do so much work and not be stressed or depressed.
did he ever try to explain to his parents that the current daily routine he has is just too stressful? usually at the age of 10 parents accept and understand and try to comfort their child no matter what. even if that wasnt the case, he remains their child. and since he thought about suicide then this is very serious. in my opinion, the best thing to do is to tell his parents that he feels sad and the current daily routine is making him depressed and miserable. but try to avoid the suicide thing because his parents could possibly freak out and overreact. but immediate changes need to be made. try to help him out and suggest solutions and think them through with him.

 

Covid has been tough, not being able to see people, destroying relationships. You try to navigate life alone, or with the guidance of your parents who everyone is seeing too much of right now, but its not enough. You start to swing into anxiety, made worse by school, which you have no motivation to do. The only thing that keeps you afloat are your cross country team (and a few other select people) and free rider hd (most of the time). You have fun in life, but when you return you’re still anxious and somewhat depressed. And the light at the end of the tunnel seems so far away...

 

TerribleTanmay
losing a friend is definitely an extremely hard thing to accept. but unfortunately, this is how life goes, we meet people, grow and have children and they will continue the cycle. somethings are important to know tho. first, you have to accept the fact that we will all die one day and we all have to make the world a better place no matter how small our contribution is. and also ask yourself a few questions, does your friend want you to be sad for a long time? wouldn't he have wanted you to be happy and live your life to the fullest?
we all need to accept the reality no matter how cruel it is. and also remember that there are tons of people in worse scenarios than us. people who die due to hunger and people who lose all their loved ones in one day. and this goes on and on. accepting reality is also a necessity in life. learn and apply it to your life. i hope this can you help you go through tough times. always stay strong.

 

got it. thanks a lot man. i will talk to him and help him work things out with his parents. i met him online over a video game and we've become close friends after that. thank you again.

 

oh god i love this thread already.

 

Wolf777
thats very true. the life of quarantine was something most people aren't used to and unfamiliar with. its hard and annoying at first but once you learn how to make the most of it its a bliss.
i guess you already knew that lots and lots of people already had this way of life, quiet, anti-social, always tired and unmotivated and this pandemic is pure gold for other people to understand their life and misery(they aren't necessarily sad but some of them are). it certainly makes you feel what they felt and see what they saw in their everyday life. it surely makes you to at least be nicer to them lol. this pandemic was also a great opprtunety to pick a hobby or learn a new thing or experiment with stuff. i agree that school is annoying and in the way but you surely have some little time left on your hands. make the best of it. help someone, feed a homeless person, teach your sister/brother something good. do the things that wouldn't normally come to mind before this pandemic. its certainly an eye-opener.
its true that the pandemic had its negative sides but it came with many good and positive sides. try to peek at the pandemic from the positive side. : )

 

TerribleTanmay
what you're going through is what every adult had to go through and most adults accepted simply because this is the way of life. one way or the other there is no escape from pain nor the difficulty of life.
think this through and ask yourself if what you're doing is correct. try to tell other people this as well to see people's perspectives. i hope you start understanding things better as soon as possible.

 

thanks man, this thread is really helpful

 

im glad people liked it. as long as at least 1 person like it, im happy i made the thread.

 

Ask for forgiveness, not for permission.

e; I've been living this way for a while now. Yea it gets you into trouble sometimes but you learn more than constantly following the rules. Rules are meant to be broken, don't forget this.

I'm not encouraging you to do something evil or super illegal, I'm encouraging pushing boundary's and exploring. Do something stupid, but learn from it. Take this from a professional idiot.

 

Agreed.

 

Ideol
parent's disappointment in their children is way more common than you might think. its completely natural for the parents to have expectations for their child and when they dont meet their expectations they aren't very happy about it. and its ok. my parents still say how lazy i am and also they complain about my other habits and thats the case for almost everyone i know. its just that when parents expect a child they want it to be perfect but in the end, we're all human. we all have our good parts and bad parts. but you also need to keep in mind that no matter how much they say these discouraging things they still love you unconditionally. they may not say it to your face but in the end, they are your parents. deep down, they love you no matter what. and after all they just want you to be the best version of yourself as possible. don't be sad about it, they just want what's best for you. one day when you have children of your own, you'll also want them to be the best children ever. and you'll still love them unconditionally.

 

Madara Are you some kind of sage or something? Because right now, you're dropping wisdom like cannonballs on us.

 

thanks so much, man. anyone can come up with these answers if you think about them hard enough. I've asked myself lots of questions similar to these. and came up with many answers. not necessarily correct but somewhat makes sense. i just want to help people in this hate infested world. so should everyone else. : )

 

words of a true god. thank you again for making this thread. you are comforting and helping more people than you think.

 

Get ready guys, to witness one of the longest posts on the free rider forums ever.........


In a few hours , great thread idea Madara This is a major problem in society, which definitely needs more attention.