Pour Your Heart Out

Bro that’s actually sick. I’ve been trying to spread it online other games. Hasn’t caught on.

 

I don't think this really applied to this thread much but whatever.
So this story is when I was in 8th grade (2019-2020). At the bus stop there were these two short-tempered kids. One was in my grade, he got set back in kindergarten and he is transgender as of 2022; His name is Jeremy but goes by J now I think and used to refer to himself as Jessica. The other one was in 7th grade and he got expelled from a school before and I heard he has real anger issues; His name is Drake. One morning Jeremy and Drake were first to the bus stop as usual and drake was standing by a tree and Jeremy was on the sidewalk. Everybody was at the bus stop including my 2 friends who were in line behind me. All I did was greet them as I can remember and I think Jeremy told me to go away or something like that. I can't remember much of what was said that morning but it was along the lines of that and I did not say it in a provocative tone and I did not say anything mean; I just wanted to talk to em. Drake was in front of me and straight up punched me in the face and said nothing but did a harsh exhale from his nose. I got up in his face yelling at him to try that again and totally restrained myself from absolutely killing this kid. Jeremy kinda went right to Drake's side. I had a bloody nose and I estimate that the bus was just rounding the corner onto the road of the stop in the neighborhood when he punched me so I was basically still yelling at this turd when people started getting into the bus. I really regret not punching Drake and I really hope I get to see him on one of my rides through the neighborhood and then I will beat him up. I am going to ask a friend who lives close to him I think and if he doesn't know like where he lives and stuff and how Drake is doing then there are a few others I can ask and I might even ask Jeremy about Drake's whereabouts. I wanna choke him till he passes out.

 

I was a bit confused until I realized I think you meant to write "I really regret not punching Drake", but anyway...

I think you should really re-evaluate the situation before committing to something so drastic. Sure, Drake went there so why shouldn't you? ...well seriously, why not? Think about it for a bit. Not in a rhetorical way where you are really thinking about how there is no reason not to, but really think about all the reasons you shouldn't stoop down to his level. How well do you know him? How well do you know J and what is the relationship between them? Why would he punch you over saying hi? I have no clue what their deal is, but something is obviously very wrong if he would punch you over something so innocent. I don't think there is anything personal he holds against you. This is reason #1. If it wasn't personal in the first place, don't make it personal. He punched you, you retaliated with words... now what? Honestly you should just leave it be for now. The situation came and went. I have a feeling his next decisions regarding you won't have anything to do with punching you or what you said back to him. It's over. Which is reason #2. It's over, why continue? His actions don't seem personal. You even said he has anger issues. If you retaliated physically, thinks might have got much worse than a bloody nose. This is reason #3. Things almost certainly would have gone worse and nothing good will come from it. Both of you would end up more seriously hurt and in the end he will still have anger issues that could lead to him punching you again in the future. But now he will probably have something personal against you and be more inclined to attack you because you fought him. That isn't to justify his actions, but I'm looking out for you. Who cares what he thinks he can get away with? If "teaching him a lesson" will get you more hurt and put you in future harms way, it's just not worth it. He is likely not to change (reason #4, 5, and idk anymore).

My point is, there are so many reasons why not to fight/attack him that go even beyond the immediate consequences. Rash decisions like the one you are considering have immediate and long term consequences from an action that you can't undo. I know I am only looking at the situation base on your one post, but the situation turns out bad for you no matter how I look at it. The best decision is to ignore him.

 

hmm

 

I really do think about it a lot
I really want to
I would win in a fight
well that was like 3 years ago and he isn't in my school so what is there to ignore
I can really get away with it very easily
I hope he tries it again
He was really sensitive and him and J consider me as a bully and I promise I haven't bullied them for reals
Who ****************************** cares if it's personal or not
It could teach him a lesson but I just really want to punch him back

 

I don't think escalating the situation is ever a good idea. That includes encouraging a fight. It will only make things worse in the short and long term. Literally no benefit comes with violence whatsoever.

 

I beg to differ greatly

thats what we want

 

you are right. but on the other hand i need likes.

3 years?

 

It would help if you explained some of the benefits you see of physical violence because I can't think of any that wouldn't be outweighed by the downsides.

Who is we?

uh... man you said he has anger issues, but dude you might want to really reconsider reigniting conflict between you and Drake from 3 whole years ago. If that doesn't scream 'grudge' I don't know what does. I was dead serious when I said choosing a fight would be detrimental to you, but now that I realize it was 3 years ago it is even more so. You are hurting yourself more than anyone else if you go through with that. Don't feed the vengeful part of your mind.

 

"I fear they would all lose. Until they find a battle worth fighting." -Master Oogway

 

makes me feel better instead of talking to him

me (and xshaade I think) wrong wording unless xshaade is with me

yes I have a grudge. the whole reason on why I am doing this

What happens is I beat him up and then my grudge is no more and that's that. It will feel really good and I won't have the grudge anymore

 

I consider it worth fighting. I got to get even and get rid of my grudge and regret

 

oh right just 2 years ago

 

that is so HORRIBLE how you have to worry about boys making fun of you for playing a fun game like i do. This is so many examples of how gender equality is not REAL AT ALL. We all need to stand up and fight for women and (them they)s because only MEN dicatate how women do is normal. it was a really dumbo named cerulan in my profile page saying that gender equality is perfect and then i just turned to this page and it is you telling this story. i am so sorry that you have to go throgh the day scared to play the game because of how men judge us women. WOMEN ARE STRONG AND INDEPENDANT #WOMEN

 

the duality of man would be very jarring to see if they give you hate for that. A bit late but you could tell them and ask if you can play with them, worse comes to worse they give you hate for it, can always ignore them, and they can't really argue big points like a girl playing this game since they play the game, and only pointing out something like a female playing games is bad would probably be a seriously bad look

also btw you did call cerulean's post about US gender pay gap and gender equality not being the biggest of issues "weird". Agreed on the need for equal treatment though, kind of a shame that it's even still present in some quantity at all on the earth.
Also they are not scared and fearing for their school life and feelings because they play the game, they are afraid of backlash that may arise from telling others they play this game

I don't believe any backlash will be received, this is probably also the crux of society, normally females who play games aren't really put down for doing such, so if the guys in school put them down, they're just not the best of people (not because refusing to idolize women playing games is wrong, but because what point are they supposed to argue except it being wrong because of the gender issue)
Saying gender equality is not real at all is a little rash though, taking into account only one situation to define the behavior of everyone is not the best move, although won't go against advocating for more gender equality as a whole

 

That goes on your record. Restrain yourself, as appealing as it seems. Colleges look at that crap. It doesn’t matter how good your grades are if they think you are a shitty person.

 

Mmm yeah no gender inequality exists. Definitely.

 

Did you read the entire post
At the end I said saying gender equality doesnt exist at all is jumping to conclusions, but I won't go against advocating for more gender equality, which means I acknowledge that it isn't perfect yet

 

He already punched me so it's just very delayed self defense y'know

 

whenever its possible to avoid violence, avoid it. theres no need to go hit him back after all these years.
if anything, it seems like that kid has managed to mentally damage you as well. grudges are not good nor healthy. forgiving him and moving on with your life is like the correct way to go.
Rube honestly did a great job explaining everything to you but you are still with your original decision. so im wondering if you came here to see if your decision is correct or to receive support?
if its to receive support then no actual adult or a reasonable person would support you in such a decision.
if you came here to actually wonder if your decision is correct or not, then you did well. but you still didnt take the advice you were presented with.

so in conclusion, you have to forgive him and move on if you would like to be at peace with yourself. since you all are young and you will make irrational decisions nonetheless which is ok. but when good advice is being thrown your way, take it.
i can understand your frustration, but no it isnt a "very delayed self defense". its more of a grudge and hatred that you have for him and you think hitting him will justify it all and make it fair. but no, you may feel good for a bit but later when you mature you will realize you just made it worse while you could've easily forgiven him.